How to Process Emotions - What to Do When You Feel Unseen, Unheard, or Unnoticed
Have you ever been told you're "too emotional"? Do you feel unseen, unheard, or unnoticed in your relationships? If you've spent years thinking about your emotions instead of actually feeling them, this episode is for you.
In this episode of the Peace and His Presence Podcast, I share my personal story of being told "you will always fail in life because you're too emotional" and how that painful wound led me to spend years stuck in my head, analyzing my emotions instead of processing them.
Discover the biblical story of Hagar and El Roi (the God Who Sees) and learn a simple framework for processing emotions in about 90 seconds instead of staying stuck in emotional loops for hours or days.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
The Difference Between Thinking About Emotions vs. Processing Them
- Why staying in your head keeps emotions stuck in your body
- How analyzing and judging emotions actually makes them stronger
- The science behind emotional processing (it only takes 90 seconds!)
- What it means to actually feel your feelings instead of just thinking about them
The Story of Hagar and El Roi
- How an Egyptian servant girl with no power gave God a name
- What the Angel of the Lord (Jesus before incarnation) did when Hagar felt completely unseen
- How El Roi sees your emotions without shame or judgment
A Practical Framework for Processing Emotions
- A simple 4-step process for moving emotions through your body
- How to invite God into your emotional processing
- Why movement (walking, changing rooms, going outside) helps release stuck emotions
- How to hold both your valid emotions AND God's truth at the same time
Help for Feeling Unseen and Unheard
- Scriptures to speak over your emotions when you feel afraid, ashamed, or alone
- How to use different names of God (El Shaddai, Yahweh Rapha, Yaweh Shalom) depending on what you need
- Why being "too emotional" isn't a flaw—it's part of being human
- How to trust that feeling emotions won't destroy you
Perfect For You If:
✓ You've been told you're too emotional, too sensitive, or too much
✓ You feel unseen, unheard, or unnoticed in your relationships
✓ You spend hours analyzing your emotions but never feel relief
✓ You're stuck in emotional loops and don't know how to break free
✓ You want biblical, practical help for processing big feelings
✓ You're exhausted from trying to logic your way out of emotions
✓ You've experienced church hurt around being "too emotional"
✓ You want to learn how to feel instead of just think
Key Takeaways:
Emotions are energy that take about 90 seconds to move through your body when you actually feel them—but staying in your head analyzing them keeps them stuck and looping.
El Roi sees you—not the smaller, less emotional version of you, but the REAL you with all your feelings, passion, and intensity.
You don't have to process emotions alone—God invites you to sit with Him and His truth while you feel your feelings.
Being "too emotional" isn't a character flaw—it's often the result of being shamed for normal human emotions and learning to suppress instead of process.
Episode Timestamps:
[00:00] Welcome and introduction to processing emotions
[00:02] The "too emotional" story—being told I would fail in life
[00:05] The pattern continues in church ministry
[00:07] Meet Hagar: the woman who felt completely unseen
[00:09] The Angel of the Lord (Jesus) appears to Hagar
[00:10] Hagar names God "El Roi"—The God Who Sees
[00:11] The difference between thinking about emotions vs. processing them
[00:13] The science: emotions take only 90 seconds to process
[00:14] The framework for processing emotions (sign up for newsletter for full details!)
[00:18] Using different names of God for different emotions
[00:19] What to do this week
[00:21] Be Still prayer with El Roi
Scriptures Referenced:
- Genesis 16 - Hagar's story and El Roi
- Psalm 91 - God is our refuge
- Romans 8:1 - No condemnation in Christ Jesus
- Hebrews 13:5 - God will never leave or forsake us
Resources Mentioned:
- Promised Hope: Finding Peace in God's Faithfulness
- Promised Rest: Finding Peace in God's Presence
- Free 50 Minute Consultation Call With Michelle
Connect With Michelle:
A Personal Note from Michelle:
If you're reading these show notes because you've been told you're "too emotional" or because you feel completely unseen—I want you to know: you're not broken. You're not too much. And there's nothing wrong with your emotions.
I spent years thinking ABOUT my emotions instead of actually FEELING them because I was told being emotional meant I would fail. But El Roi—the God Who Sees—taught me that my emotions aren't flaws. They're part of being fully human and fully His.
This episode shares the practical framework I use (and teach my coaching clients) for processing emotions in about 90 seconds instead of staying stuck in loops for hours or days. But more than that, it's an invitation to meet El Roi—the God who sees ALL of you and calls it good.
You don't have to be smaller, quieter, or less to be loved by God. He sees you. All of you. And He's inviting you to process your emotions WITH Him.
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