When You Cannot Fix It: Rest for the Weary Soul
Are you a Christian woman who can't stop worrying about someone you love?
Maybe it's your child who is struggling and won't let you help. Maybe it's a marriage that feels like it's slipping through your fingers. Maybe it's a parent's health or a situation at work or a relationship that keeps you awake at 3am spinning through every possible worst case scenario.
You believe in God. You know He is in control. And your body still won't calm down.
Friend — there is nothing wrong with you. And you are not alone.
In this first episode of the When You Cannot Fix It summer series, I'm sharing something I've never talked about publicly before — a childhood memory that quietly shaped decades of anxiety, over-responsibility, and carrying burdens that were never mine to carry. And I'm sharing what I'm learning to do with all of it.
If you have ever felt like a control freak and wondered why you can't just let go and trust God — this episode was made for you.
What Christian Women Are Searching For — And What Jesus Says
So many Christian women are exhausted from trying to fix things they cannot fix. Trying to control outcomes they cannot control. Trying to manage the emotions of everyone around them while quietly setting their own aside.
Maybe you recognize yourself in this:
You are the one who holds it all together even when you are falling apart on the inside. You replay conversations looking for the loophole — the magic words that will finally change things. You feel physically sick when someone you love is hurting and you can't see them or reach them or make it better. You brace for disaster on a perfectly ordinary Tuesday because your nervous system has been on high alert for so long it doesn't know how to stand down.
That is not weak faith. That is not a character flaw. That is a nervous system that has been overworking for a very long time — trying to protect you and the people you love.
And Jesus meets you right there.
Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28
He is not saying — get it together first and then come. He is not saying — stop worrying and then come. He is saying — come. Weary. Burdened. Braced. Just come.
The Story Behind This Episode
I grew up as a twin. My sister Jimella and I were little girls in a kitchen in International Falls Minnesota — the icebox of the nation — when something happened that quietly shaped the next fifty years of my life.
I didn't understand it until this past year when I began studying how our nervous systems build protective patterns. And when I finally understood it — I didn't feel ashamed anymore. I felt compassion. For that little girl who just never wanted to see someone she loved get hurt again.
That's what this episode is about. Not a tidy lesson from the other side of healed. A real story from a woman who is still in the middle of learning to lay it down.
What You Will Discover in This Episode
If you are a Christian woman struggling with anxiety, worry, or the exhausting need to fix and control — here is what this episode will give you:
A new understanding of why your brain builds protective patterns and why that is not a spiritual failure. The simple neuroscience behind why your nervous system stays in fight or flight even when there is nothing left to fight. Compassion for that part of you that cannot rest until everyone is okay — instead of shame. A practical way to bring what you are carrying to the foot of the cross and let Jesus hold what was never yours to carry in the first place. And the beginning of learning to let go — not perfectly, not all at once, but one thing at a time.
Free Resource — Weary Traveler Reflection and Prayer Guide
I made something for you. It's completely free.
The Weary Traveler: Rest for the Over-Carrying Soul Reflection and Prayer Guide will walk you gently through eight reflection questions and a prayer of release — right to the foot of the cross with whatever you are carrying today.
If you are already on my email list it is on its way to you. If not — download it free right here.
Ready to Go Deeper?
If you find yourself thinking — I need someone to walk through this with me personally — I would love to sit with you. I offer a free consultation with no pressure and no obligation. Just a conversation, some practical faith-based coaching tools, and a safe place to start.
About Michelle Diercks
Michelle Diercks is a Master Certified Christian Life Coach, speaker, and the author of Promised Rest and Promised Hope published by Concordia Publishing House. She is the host of the Peace in His Presence podcast and lives on a farm in Eastern Iowa with her husband Troy.
Michelle helps anxious Christian women find peace through faith, neuroscience, and practical coaching tools — not from a place of having it all figured out, but from right beside them in the middle of it.
She is not above you. She is beside you.
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If this episode spoke to something you've been carrying — would you share it with one woman who needs to hear it? You never know whose kitchen story is waiting to be understood.
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New episodes dropping all summer. We are going on this journey together — one week at a time, one thing at a time, learning to lay it all down.
You were never meant to carry all of this friend. And you don't have to.
Connect with Michelle: 🌐 michellediercks.com 📖 Promised Rest and Promised Hope — available wherever books are sold
